Have you noticed things from your childhood impacting your marriage? If you are single, do you avoid commitment in relationships because you don’t want to have a marriage like your parent’s had? Why You Should Evaluate Your Childhood, For The Sake Of Your Marriage
One of my blogging friends, Kitten, asked me if I would join her in a March blogging challenge on writing on the topic of femininity. This challenge is for every day of March, and I won’t be able to fulfill that, but I may do one or two posts during the month.
For my part, I’d like to talk about femininity and feminism, or really, how feminism tried to steal my femininity. As many people know, I am an avid critic of the modern feminism movement and some of the concepts it represents. This quote accurately sums up my thoughts on it:
I think there is a fundamental misunderstanding that lies at the root of feminism. This has impacted women of all ages, but I think it has especially impacted these young girls. This sense that freedom is the ability to do whatever I want, whenever I want, and that the earlier I can experience this total freedom, the better. But we know that freedom is the ability to do what you ought to do, to do the good, to choose the good. – Colleen Carroll Campbell
I love this quote because it points out something that is glaringly obvious to me about the feminist movement: Freedom can be paradoxical in that, the more choices you have, the more responsibility you have to make the right choices. When you have “total” freedom, people will expect you to use it in the way they see fit and often make it a moral issues if you don’t.Continue Reading
My latest for Anne Cohen on calling it quits in friendships: How To End Friendships You Know Are Holding You Back
My latest for Anne Cohen! Why Your Partner Should Be Your Best Friend
Question #2: What would you define as cheating? And is that all women? Or just you?
This video is part of a collaboration series with Raymond the Relationship Blogger. We are hoping to do a video every week answering each other’s questions on sex to promote a healthy understanding of sex and sexuality and to show the differences in how we think about these topics.
He also insists that there is a right way to put on the toilet paper roll, and I disagree, but you know what? It doesn’t matter if you can’t even put the toilet paper roll on the roller because the toddler is like a cat and will unroll it all and throw it in the toilet, so ha! We will settle this one when our son acts more like a human than a cat.
The stories we tell ourselves are powerful. They aren’t just daydreams or fantasies, they are a reflection of what is in our hearts.
A response to the question:
“Do you think that purity culture has expanded, in all of its factions, as a response to the growing sex culture in the world over the last 50+ years? And/or Do you think that the growing sex culture of the last 50+ years is just a revolt against an already long established purity culture? Or do you think that they are growing in response to each other?”
Enjoy this? Then you’ll love my new book, The Scarlet Virgins!
“A chewed up piece of gum.”
These cringe-worthy phrases from Christian purity culture ingrained themselves in the minds of the impressionable youth of my generation. Fearing the destruction of their children’s bodies and souls as the world around them became caught up in pushing a progressive sexual agenda, our parents and thought leaders rose up and sought to fight back against the lewdness and promiscuity surrounding us.
Unfortunately, their approach was entangled with fear and pain, going so far as to criminalize all forms of affection. This bore fruit of unprecedented physical, mental, and spiritual consequences as our worth and identity were found in what we did and didn’t do sexually, not in Christ and His sacrifice for us. The heavy-handed and legalistic emphasis on sexual-purity-at-all-costs left a legacy of emotional and spiritual devastation in its wake that follows many even into adulthood.
This book takes a vulnerable look at these issues through the eyes of someone who experienced it firsthand. It seeks to identify what purity culture got wrong and bring peace to the hearts of those whom it has wounded so deeply, by exposing the truth: It is Christ who makes us pure.