Age gaps are controversial in relationships these days, and sometimes for good reason.
With age gaps, you run the risk of predatory behavior or tendencies to be abusive or controlling. Other, less nefarious baggage that can cause men to go after younger women is them not being able to find good women their own age, or having emotional trauma/damage.
My husband and I have an age gap in our relationship, he is older than me by a bit, for the last two reasons I stated (trouble with people our own age and emotional damage from past relationships). Neither of us ever felt our relationship was unusual, especially considering many family members and fellow church attendees had the same age gap that we did.
Perhaps for young people who have been indoctrinated to believe it is their God-given right to have an extended period of immaturity in order to experience “childhood” and party in their young years because “LOL YOLO” an age gap would be a problem, but my husband and I were both homeschooled. This meant we were raised without that expectation of extended adolescence, and also meant that we were well versed in interacting with people of all ages, treating people within a decade of our own age as if we could be best friends. There was no pressure to conform to people in our own “grade” or class, and that gave us the freedom to be open-minded when the time came for us to consider each other as potential partners.Continue Reading