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“Joshua Harris’ famous (or infamous) book, I Kissed Dating Goodbye is a major piece of purity culture’s history. The content of this book is so controversial that many parents and children who grew up in the era this book influenced are still sorting out their thoughts about it!
In this episode, Rebecca discusses her current attitude towards the author and respectfully challenges many of his assertions.”
I had the privilege of attending God’s Best Gift with a family member, and Abby Johnson: ProWoman, ProChild, ProLife was a speaker there!
We learned so much from her and her testimony, some of which you can find in this video on our way home, but the most shocking thing for both of us was the rates of suicide among post abortive mothers.
Post abortive mothers are 6 times more likely to commit suicide. Please do not be afraid to reach out and get help! If you are post abortive (it doesn’t matter by how much) and struggle with what happened, please find a local Eden Clinic where they can offer you counseling tailored to your needs and if you need to, call the national suicide hotline: 1-800-273-8255.
In my time of blogging, since August 2015, I’ve said a lot of things. After being reminded of how fragile life really is twice recently, it made me evaluate what is really important to me and look back on my content to see if I was saying what I really wanted to, and I wasn’t. In an entire year and eight months, out of three hundred posts, I’ve had ample opportunity to talk, but I could not find one in which I said exactly what I wanted to say and as much as I wanted to say. Because I was (and am) scared of the consequences. The domain change from my previous website was supposed to help me with that, but my anxiety from the previously anti-Christian crowd I ran in while pregnant still runs high.
I had friends then who believed I was on “their side” with many issues, but then later found out I was Christian. It was not a good situation and it still handicaps me mentally now to have dealt with such vehement anger and rage from people I had done nothing to. The only thing that had changed was that they found out I was Christian.
I have a lot of friends now who view me as a reasonable, maybe even intelligent person. But after this, they might not. And I have a lot of people who don’t like me (around here we call them fans, because they hate you but they can’t take their eyes off your Facebook timeline) think that I am a lot of things that I am not, and after this, they might not.
This video might change the relationships I am in, for better and for worse, but I’m done waiting and twiddling my thumbs in search of the right time and the perfect words. What people think of me is not important, not by a long shot. What is important is what I need to tell you, and it can’t wait.
I don’t care if you love me or hate me, if you read and watch everything I post or this is your first time. No matter who you are, I want you to see this.
My apologies in advance, there is a lot of crying.
Since I started participating in this series on femininity with Kitten for the month of March, I’ve learned a lot. I’ve learned that the other women participating in this challenge are pretty stinkin’ amazing, femininity is a very popular subject, and that femininity is also a very touchy subject for some. I wrote a post last week called No Bones About It: Femininity and Anorexia and I am so happy to see how well it has been received among other people who suffer from eating disorders.
Today I want to talk about something very different from my previous two posts and that is Biblical Femininity. I had actually chosen this topic before I was rudely told (by a few unnamed folks) that I didn’t know what femininity really is (to which I replied by whipping out a dictionary and being backed up by said dictionary – thanks webster!) So it seems this is a topic that needs to be discussed.
Views of Biblical Femininity can be highly distorted, and I know this because I grew up in a community where modesty was heavily pushed and taken to places that are unsupported by scripture.
In addition to that, the role of a woman in a relationship with a man was also distorted through an incorrect interpretation of a verse. Essentially, a woman was supposed to obey the oldest man in the room asking her to do something (this can get sketchy, let me assure you). Thankfully, I had an amazing Pastor, husband, and hebrew teacher who taught me the correct application of that verse and I have been free from that legalistic interpretation for quite some time.
All this is to say, I know a bit about the corruption of Biblical Femininity and sympathize with those who have been hurt by the cherry-picking of scripture (resulting in a loss of context and a cut and paste version of the bible). In the process of unlearning those unhealthy teaching, I’ve had the chance to appreciate the correct view of Biblical Femininity more than most.
Without further ado, let’s get in to what femininity is, or rather, what a feminine woman of God is like.
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In honor of Valentine’s Day, I’m going to write about an extremely popular movie for the romance genre. A couple of months ago, after a very long time of me begging my husband, I watch the movie The Notebook for the first time. My husband had seen it before and liked it but didn’t want to watch a “chick flick” with me so it took a little bit of convincing. 😉
There were a lot of women who found out I hadn’t seen it and threatened to remove my “woman card”. I wasn’t aware there was such a thing but apparently, you can lose it by not having watched this movie.😉
To give you an idea of what I was expecting, many of my Christian female friends had told me it was the best romantic movie ever. Essentially a must watch and fantastic love story. They may have set my expectations a little high.Continue Reading
I have no doubt that if you are a living, breathing human being, you have heard the phrase “Be yourself” at some point in your life.
The number of times in junior high that I was told this phrase are probably innumerable, and it only became more frequent as time went on. It was used as motivational material for many graduations and ceremonies I attended as a kid. Usually it was meant to be encouraging, but I always came away from the conversations and presentations feeling more confused than when I went in.
The only place I can recall not hearing the phrase “Be yourself” was my church. I suspect that is because being yourself as a Christian means acknowledging that you are a poor, miserable sinner, and that is not a good thing (without Jesus, anyways).
While I agree with that assessment, I tend to not like the phrase for a very different reason, especially when it is told to young people. It seems like nothing but more of the mindless, feel-good rhetoric that pervades our culture.Continue Reading
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So in the last week, I’ve had a couple of people contact me out of the blue about various mental health questions. Because I’ve been very open on this blog and New Crunchy Mom about it, I guess I’ve built a reputation of knowing about these things and honestly I think that is great and I love helping others who struggle like I do/have.
There was one question I got that I thought might be helpful to address here on the blog and that was: Can you recommend any Anorexia recovery groups?
To answer that, in short, no I cannot.
I have tried a few different anorexia recovery groups, most of which were specifically Christian because that was important to me. I wanted to know that the encouragement that I was hoping to get from the groups was going to be bible-based.
After I joined the groups, there were three things that really stuck out to me and gave me some pause for concern.
#1. There was a lot of underlying pro-Ana discussions.
A lot of what I saw going on in these recovery groups was thinly veiled attempts at competition on who had it “worse”, who had lost the most weight, who had been in the most danger, and who was relapsing the worst. There were a lot of numbers thrown out, and pictures, and I honestly felt like it was doing more to encourage an eating disorder rather than to encourage recovery.Continue Reading