Modesty, Makeup, Jewelry, and more

The Scarlet Virgins

Is it okay to cut your hair, wear makeup, wear spaghetti straps, and get your ears pierced? It depends on who you ask!

As a child, Rebecca had many friends who were not allowed or afforded even the most basic of grooming and cosmetic choices. In this episode, she discusses coming out of this unique part of modesty and purity culture and the things that have helped her in this journey.

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“Growing up, Rebecca was taught that modesty was a woman’s issue. She was told that men were visual and didn’t possess self-control, so it was the duty of her and her female friends to keep their male companions on the straight and narrow.

After leaving modesty and purity culture, Rebecca was introduced to the idea that women play no part in loving their male neighbors through their wardrobe. This rhetoric left her thinking: Am I my brother’s keeper?

In this episode, she recounts her experiences with both of these schools of thought and offers her Christ-focused approach as an alternative.”

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“Spit-in water.”

“De-petaled flower.”

“A chewed up piece of gum.”

These cringe-worthy phrases from Christian purity culture ingrained themselves in the minds of the impressionable youth of my generation. Fearing the destruction of their children’s bodies and souls as the world around them became caught up in pushing a progressive sexual agenda, our parents and thought leaders rose up and sought to fight back against the lewdness and promiscuity surrounding us.

Unfortunately, their approach was entangled with fear and pain, going so far as to criminalize all forms of affection. This bore fruit of unprecedented physical, mental, and spiritual consequences as our worth and identity were found in what we did and didn’t do sexually, not in Christ and His sacrifice for us. The heavy-handed and legalistic emphasis on sexual-purity-at-all-costs left a legacy of emotional and spiritual devastation in its wake that follows many even into adulthood.

This book takes a vulnerable look at these issues through the eyes of someone who experienced it firsthand. It seeks to identify what purity culture got wrong and bring peace to the hearts of those whom it has wounded so deeply, by exposing the truth: It is Christ who makes us pure.

Lessons and Consequences

My toddler and I went grocery shopping tonight. I dressed him up in non-matching socks (his choice) and a dinosaur onesie before heading to pick out some clothes for myself. He trailed along behind me as I grabbed one of my favorite blue sweaters and an ankle-length skirt. It was an outfit that screamed “I used to be a homeschooler” but it was comfortable and I didn’t figure we’d be seeing anyone we knew anyways. I knew it would hide the bloating from my body trying to adjust to eating again after vomiting for a couple of days straight.

As I slipped it on, I realized I still hadn’t really gained any weight since falling ill last week. I had gained two or three pounds, but when I woke up this morning and weighed, I was back to a pound above my lowest weight since I got sick. I tugged at the sleeves, pulling them down as I took in how baggy it looked on me now. I told myself that at least I didn’t lose enough to be back in little girl size clothing.Continue Reading

Dancing, Daisy Dukes and Stage Fright

Hey there!

So…I haven’t made a video or written something (non-fiction, anyways) in a while. Almost a month, actually.


There is a reason.  But you knew that, didn’t you? There is always a reason.

I know what you are thinking…What the heck, Rebecca? Why are you so squirrely? You jump from blogging to vlogging to podcasting to fiction.

Yeah, yeah, I know. I have issues focusing.

Right now, fiction is easier for me to distract myself with. I need distractions because I’m flippin’ falling apart up in here.Continue Reading

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